Feel like a Tightrope Walker?

Feel like a Tightrope Walker?

My kids never tire of me telling them they have a Billionaire Mom: each of them is so precious to me and worth infinitely more than a billion dollars. Which is why I chose to work from home and schedule my day around my family. For me, no longer having a boss breathing down my neck or second-guessing my decision to stay home with a sick child is what allows me to be the mom I want to be for my kids. And yet life is a lot more hectic than ever before.

The problem is this:

I’ll just take a few minutes to throw in a load of laundry.

How long will it take if I just peel and cut the veggies for a soup?

Hey! I forgot to eat lunch.

The grocery order. The doctor’s appointment. The “urgent” phone call.

There’s no better way to derail my thoughts and workflow than constantly interrupting myself during the time I’m trying to work. But let’s face it, it’s no small feat to carve out a life that balances all of a family’s many needs and responsibilities. When you have lots of flexibility in your schedule, it’s easy for that balance to be thrown off.

Moms are excellent at multitasking and can balance many different roles and priorities. The way I see it, the business of being a mom, provides excellent training for running a business, actually. In fact, I view my role of an entrepreneur as one of the facets of being a Mom—it’s one more role I play amongst the many.

I don’t have to tell you how it’s all too easy to get distracted by the million little details of keeping a home running—from the moment I open my eyes in the morning until I finally call it a night. For me, creating the right balance between business life and family life is one of the biggest struggles of working from home.

In today’s article I want to share some tips on how you can create more balance. Oftentimes when we’re feeling like a tightrope walker ideas won’t flow. So if right now you’re feeling like you need to take a break from tightrope walking, keep reading to learn how I create some more balance and you can too.

If trying to maintain balance in your life makes you sometimes feel like Terrifico the Terrified Tightrope Walker in the Circus of Life, working without a net while the crowd below holds their breath in anticipation of a slip, you’re not alone. These days almost all of us have so many demands placed on our time and energy, life can feel like a three-ring circus. And if you’re not up there on the tightrope, you’re down on the ground in the midst of tigers and lions, in charge of keeping a couple of dozen plates spinning in air.

Maintaining balance isn’t easy. It requires holding steady with the many responsibilities that are a normal and everyday part of life: home, family, friends and work, while at the same time recognizing and fulfilling personal needs and wants. Finding and maintaining balance when life can be so complicated and demanding is both an inside and outside job.

Inside—Only you can take care of yourself.

Consider how well you take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. Do you eat healthfully and exercise regularly? Do you get check-ups and take preventative precautions? Do you set aside personal, quiet time for yourself? Do you make time to enjoy nature and art, filling yourself up again and again?

Outside—Reaching outside yourself gives meaning.

Think about how you reach outside yourself for sharing and giving meaning to your life. Do you spend quality time with family and friends? Do you give back to life through your time, energy and experience? Contributing to the larger world provides connection and purpose.

Renewal—The key to a rich and fulfilling life.

Living a life in balance means taking the necessary time to renew yourself. Renewal is not about searching for a mindless, purposeless escape. Rather it’s about building or renewing relationships with family and friends, recommitting to core values and restoring energy through rest and recreation.

When we’re pressed up against the urgent demands of daily life, it is normal to feel ourselves losing our edge, our energy and even perspective in every area of life. It’s like reading a run-on sentence that goes on and on forever.

Personal leadership is cultivating the wisdom to recognize our need for renewal. We renew the balance of the multi-dimensional roles we play, the impact of goals in our lives, our commitment to living for a higher purpose. And it empowers us to connect the dots between our responsibilities and create synergy.

Integrated Renewal takes that to the next level.

Whereas renewal by itself could mean devoting 30 minutes a day for exercising and 30 minutes a day for spending time with your teenage son, integrated renewal is combining the two and increasing the value of each of these activities.

When you do that, you look at all your different roles, goals and responsibilities as a whole, and that creates unity. Rather than feeling fragmented – the different slices of our lives conflicting for our limited time and energy – you feel intact. You shift from “either/or” thinking and view it all through the lens of “and.”

This creates inner peace, balance, richness – a mindset of abundance. Time may be a limited resource, but you aren’t. The more balance you create among the many responsibilities of daily life, the more of you there is to put into the time you have.

Try it, you might like it

To discover how well balanced your life is, keep a log of how you spend your time. In a little notebook you can carry with you, write down the hours you spend under the broad headings: “for me” and “for others.” Also make notes of requests for your time (from family members, from coworkers or professional obligations). Include “requests” from your physical and emotional self: “I wish I could take time to take a walk today.” Or “Gee, I’d love to take a nap.”

After a week or two, you can expect to have some pretty clear messages on where there is balance in your life and where there is not. You might also come to see what’s important to you and how you can make changes in your life that will create a life of health, well-being and joy—a balanced life.

My favorite renewal activity is organizing my weekly schedule. First, I simply jot down everything I’d like to achieve during the week. Then, I look at what I might combine. I don’t do this so that I can cram more activities in my schedule, but so that I can integrate the different parts of my life. So for instance, if I’d like to tune my voice before a speaking engagement, I’ll combine it with family time, gather my children around and have a singing session. They love it!

What aspects of your different roles can you combine? The possibilities are endless.

 

Time: It’s Not How Much You Have, It’s How You Chunk It!

Time: It’s Not How Much You Have, It’s How You Chunk It!

Grand visions can be as daunting and disheartening as they can be inspiring and motivating. The secret to making your vision come to life is to break it down into small doable action steps that will gradually get you to where you want to be.

No matter how many new technological innovations are created to improve our efficiency and productivity, we all have just 24 hours in every day. Nobody was given a 25 hour day. Ever.

And while you can’t add more hours to the day, you CAN make better use of the hours you have.

It’s called time chunking, and it’s a whole new way of looking at your goals, visions and ambitions.

Chunking is a way of breaking down larger goals into more realistically achievable steps. The process helps you to identify all the smaller tasks that are involved in achieving a bigger aim, and create a timeline to get them done.

As you move forward with a series of realistic mini goals, you are constantly rewarded with a sense of achievement that keeps you motivated, excited and on track.

Begin with the End in Mind

Say your vision is to create an online home-study course. Think about the different steps you need to take to develop this product and actually make it happen.

If you’re a visual person, create a visual map of your goal. Using the example of creating an online course, you would draw a circle in the middle of a whiteboard or large sheet of paper and fill in your goal: your online course. Now map out all the steps out you need to take to achieve this goal, such as:

  • Choosing your target market
  • Getting clear on your topic
  • Creating content
  • Marketing your course
  • Launching your course

With your list of all the smaller tasks you can begin to create a timeline for them. Each step should be something that is comfortably achievable in the time slots that you have available.

Solid Time Chunks

If time chunking is going to work for you, it’s imperative that you book these solid time blocks in your schedule and protect them from distractions or things that seem urgent but aren’t.

Begin by assessing which of your tasks need “solid” chunks of time and which need “split” chunks.

Here are the two types of tasks to reserve for your solid time chunks:

  1. Big Thinking. Tasks that need a running start and that require creative or strategic thinking, such as planning and writing your e-course. Each time you stop and start these tasks, you lose time as well as thinking power.
  2. Production Line. Any task that follows the same sequence of steps each time. For example, processing emails, paying bills, invoicing and shipping tasks can be handled much more efficiently if you get them all done at once. All the tools you need are in front of you and you’re “in the groove” of that particular task. Use a checklist to guide your work.

Split Time Chunks

This is “found” time, such as waiting on hold or in line, traveling by public transportation, or if you arrive early for a meeting. Keep a list of tasks you can do wherever you are. Important note: Be sure to have a system in place for transferring information back to your desk, computer or project folder if you’re working remotely.

Here’s what you can check off your list during your split time chunks:

  1. Project Details. For example, booking or confirming a meeting time or picking something up from the printer. Phone calls and brief email responses (that you identified when you “processed” your email during a solid time chunk) also fit into this category.
  2. Miscellaneous. Tasks that may not be associated with a specific project but still need to get done, such as ordering office supplies or replying to general inquiries and customer service requests.

The real power of chunking is in the creation of small, achievable steps. When you stay focused on your one next step, you are confident about what you know you can achieve and secure in the knowledge that you will get to the other tasks in their allotted time-slots.

When you do the right task in the right chunk of time, you’ll be amazed at how much more productive you are! Your “to do” list will get shorter, you’ll enjoy more peace of mind and you’ll stop wasting time trying to recapture your creative flow.